Monday Musings

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I know. This is a food blog.

But…let’s take a moment a realize that food, along with many other entities in the world, are all interconnected with each other. How we interact with food or anything else can be very similar in other areas of the globe.

Yes, I want to talk about what happened in Paris.

But just briefly. I won’t inundate your brain with sad words and politically charged phrases. I just want to take a moment to pause and remember that life is sacred, the world is fragile and kindness becomes more and more scarce as I get older – at least it feels that way.

One of my favorite things about being obsessed with food and cooking is that I get to dote upon my loved ones. A meal is just a meal. Bread is just bread. Macaroni with four different types of cheese is just hot carbs (although glorious). The real magic is the love that is injected into the labor of cooking. The camaraderie that is found between slurps of steaming noodles. The heartfelt empathy that blooms over a glass of good wine.  My obsession and food in general would be nothing without that human connection.

I read another article on a different kind of love. The intimate kind that happens in a relationship. However, I think that the basis of the psychological study could apply anywhere.  It is a study done by psychologist John Gottman about the “Masters and Disasters” of love.

Gottman studied closely multiple relationships to see what made them work and, in short, found that at the very foundation of a relationship that lasts – it is kindness that keeps the ties strong.

“There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness.”

“But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.”

When it comes to food or worldly affairs, I think that it is often as simple as that. Kindness and generosity, though often more work than hate or anger or intolerance, is what keeps all of us connected, moving forward and happy.

We are thinking of you, Paris.

Furthermore – have a glass of wine with a friend while you learn to caramelize some onions. A very important skill, I always thought.

Or, be kind and generous to yourself by making this single, solitary, sensational pancake.


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